My Most Memorable Valentine’s Day Ever
We were just married four months. I was 19 and hubby was 22. He was/is my soul mate, and I was sure he knew every whimsical dream I had in my heart. After all how could he not know that I desired the absolutely best, most fantastic Valentine’s Day ever. It should be our most memorable since it was our first together as a married couple right?
Well, I wasn’t wrong. It definitely was the most memorable one. Just not in the way I imagined. My sweetheart being the extremely romantic type came home carrying a… brand new toilet seat. He thought it was funny because our old one was broken and kept pinching us on the bottom every time we sat down. You’d think it would be pink at least or cushiony.. it was a plain white cheap plastic toilet seat.
Okay, I didn’t take this well. I cried. I’m sure I screamed. This was not what I imagined for my most memorable, more romantic, most cherished Valentine’s Day gift. I was fuming and he noticed. Sooo he promised to take me out for dessert and that the toilet seat was “just a joke”, and that was his plan all along. I didn’t believe him. I knew his crazy little mind – he could double duty a romantic gift with something we actually needed.. I KNEW everything in my 19 year old mind!!!!
Some joke! I don’t think it will ever be forgotten! Not because I’m angry, but because it was funny and it shows us how much we’ve grown and changed over the years. The expectations and challenges of marriage are so different from the “ideals” of that first year of marriage. The challenges from knowing everything to realizing how much we have to learn and how much we have to change. I was 19, and contrary to the popular belief in my head I really didn’t know everything.
Now, I know you’re thinking does he give better gifts now?? Well…. Hmmmm he is getting better… 13 years later… still a work in progress… do I care? No. I usually buy my own gifts most of the time. Do I love what he gives me? Yes. I’m starting to realize his idea of what he gives me is because he loves me and thinks it is important to me, or thinks I need it. Giving gifts is not his love language and that’s okay. I know he loves me. I know he tries to understand me. After all, he can’t read my mind and I’m afraid he never will be able to.
I hope you have an excellent valentine’s day and know that it’s okay to have some fun too! Fun can be sexy!
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