Well, seeing I have a while to wait on this — My girls are only 2 & 4 years old after all, but it’s something important to think about. I’m sure I’ll have more to expound on the subject in a few years.
I can remember when I first got married (13.5 years ago!); somewhat to my recent days of motherhood – there are so many things that people forget to tell you.. or rather don’t tell you that probably should be mentioned before you make the commitment of such significant events in your life. I mean the real truth.. the real issues that happen when we get married.
1. Marriage isn’t a marriage unless God is in it.
Two people can “get married” but it isn’t complete unless your marriage is given over to God and you follow His desires & plans for what marriage is suppose to be. It doesn’t work well any other way. Oh sure, some people have survived it — but they haven’t really lived it, enjoyed it, prospered from it.
2. No is not an option –Marriage is really hard work.
From someone who went down the bad side of marriage and lived.. Marriage is a commitment that is hard. You have to make it a set plan to stick to it. You and your spouse need to decide together that you are willing to work through ANYTHING and EVERYTHING… that whole line about through good and bad, till death do us part; you know that part I’m talking about… take it seriously… some places in the world don’t allow women to change their last names till they are married for over 3 years because divorce rates are so high.
3. I love you & I am sorry are 2 phrases you should say often.
We are not our partners Holy Spirit. I like to think I am, but the truth is, the Holy Spirit will convict our spouses in their own search as he convicts us of our down falls. We don’t need to nag it into them… thus saying I’m sorry and I love you are important words when we screw up. Say them like you mean it. I find most often we treat the people we love the most the worst and save our game face for strangers… how sad when we look down the road and see how horrible we’ve treated each other.
I could think of several more, but I need to stop now. (and after re-reading the title.. I think this specifically applies to “MARITAL needs lol”.. physical love combined with real love is a deadly combination.. it’s hard work and is harder to be broken the stronger the ties are!